February 28, 2020

It’s for Dad’s too

Many working Dad’s bemoan that they cannot spend more time with their children and families. So given the chance would they really take the opportunity to spend more time away from work with what should be a perfect antidote after a stressful day at the office?

Well the truth appears somewhat different. Most men it seems find looking after their children much harder than going to work – something most mothers would say they already knew.

Nearly two thirds of working Dads admit they go to work to get a break from their families and in particular their children. They also appreciate that mothers who raise children have a harder job than they do and more than half of working Dads say there is no way they would swap places and become the main carer.

The survey of over 3000 working Dads was carried out by Bounty, a company that has been around for 50 years with the purpose of making family life easier.

The survey suggests that Dads are heavily influenced by both their own upbringing and also their bosses, who in many cases are older Dads themselves, with a very traditional view of work and home. These ‘bosses’ often in very senior positions, supported by stay at home wives or partners, expect the same of the people who work for them and often demand long hours of work.

But does it have to be this way? 

NineteenMinutes believes that the single biggest factor behind many Dads’ reluctance to spend more time at home and engaging with the children is that that they lack the knowledge and skills to do this effectively. Society’s expectations of the role of the father today are considerably different to those of many years ago, when many of today’s fathers were raised. 

However, with many mothers still taking a lead, Dads are given every excuse not to learn or practice for one of their most important roles.

Amanda Solomons, the inspiration behind NineteenMinutes has been involved in delivering to Dads and in organising Dads only programmes to support them in improving their engagement at home with their families and their children.  She is also accredited by the think tank the Fatherhood Institute.

The courses run and work done has highlighted the conflicts that Dads often feel and the difficulties they experience in balancing work with home, allowing them to express feelings of frustration and guilt at not being able to fulfill these different roles effectively.

As a result of attending these programmes Dads have developed the knowledge and skills and found the confidence to build stronger relationships with their children which has in turn led to a happier life at home.

Increasing your knowledge about how your children think and behave and improving your skills to listen, question and engage with them more effectively can help Dads to really enjoy inspirational times with their children. Involving Dads in our programmes and helping to change their mindsets is one way that we can improve the work/life balance at the organisations we work with…bringing benefits to the home and the workplace.

If you are a working Dad or an employer of working Dads and want to know more then please click here to get in touch.

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